One More Simple Step to Get Better Results
After writing my three simple steps to being successful in business, I thought of one more important step to help anyone achieve better results in anything they choose to set their mind to.
Does the quantity of your efforts match the quality of the results you get? Do you wish that you could get better results? There is one simple and effective way that anyone can use to get better results without it costing a single cent.
Simply ask better questions!
You can choose to ask yourself if you are happy. There are times when the answer will be “yes” as you can feel a surge of joy and confidence inside you when things have gone well. There are times when your answer will be “no” if you had a bad day, and your confidence has taken a beating. If your answer was “no”, you get into a worse state than before you asked yourself the question. The law of attraction states that what ever you are feeling and thinking about, you will attract more of those feelings and thoughts.
Ask a better question of yourself. Ask what you can be happy about. When most people ask themselves this question, they think of the things that they normally take for granted. By doing this, you can shift yourself to a more resourceful state and get out of the “poor me” state of mind.
What about at work where somehow you are not getting the recognition and the monetary rewards? You can ask yourself as to why am I not converting leads/sales/customers?
Perhaps a better and more basic question may be to ask yourself what is it that you need to close the sale or whatever the case may be. This show that you are missing important elements in delivering on the job. It can be a tough pill to swallow, but it is easier if you discover it yourself sooner rather than later.
Now, if you find that your work is good and yet you are simply not closing deals, you can either gripe about it or ask yourself another question like should you look for another business or god forbid, should I go work for someone else? If the answer is “no”, then next will be to question yourself as to the value of staying focused. It could be that the learning experience is valuable enough for you to stay focused on for a while.
Asking better questions applies to any aspect of life. The trick is in asking questions that will give you answers that will solve your problems, not create bigger problems.
If you asked yourself why you are sad or why you are doing a bad job of whatever it is you are doing, you will get answers as to what makes you sad or do a bad job. Those are not the actions you want to take. Ask questions that will give you actions to achieve better results.
You may argue that if you know what you should not do, the opposite is what you should do. Sounds logical, doesn’t it? The only problem is that your brain absorbs and attracts the negatives if that is what you are primarily feeding it. You then start attracting negative elements. So, it is crucial that your answers are the positive ones that you want to act on.
Does this apply when you are at social gatherings? Most definitely!
A typical question will be “how are you?” and the person replies “fine, thank you” and that ends the conversation. Better questions must involve something that the person with whom you are speaking knows a lot about.
Everyone knows about themselves well. So, if you ask a question like “what was the last enjoyable movie that you watched?” followed by “what was it about the movie that was enjoyable?”, the chances are this person will be able to talk about it. Or it could be “did you read any good books recently?” and “what was good about that book?”.
The trick is in just remembering one thing. If you do not like the result you are getting, and you are frustrated, ask a question that will get you out of the frustrated state. Change your way of thinking just for a moment and you can very easily change the outcome of the rest of your day (or life.)
You will be amazed at the changes you will see in yourself, when you start asking better questions.